I’m just sort of curious. I’m just sort of curious. I’ve been working a lot more and harder these days. I was pretty happy with my recent comps and bonus….until my wife just came back with hers.
Part of my is happy for her, part of me is sort of irritated at her company for being generous, and my company for not keeping up. But I guess in this economy, who’s complaining, right?
On the good news, we get to go a healthplan for which there are no out of pocket expenses and no paycheck deductions, so I can opt out of the one offered by my company that sucks.
Side note, does it generally both some of you men if your spouse makes more than you? Just curious. I’ll admit, it a tiny bit bothers me…Sorry, I’m I’m for ERA…Just, a little pride wounding though.
rnen
October 16, 2008 @
6:22 AM
My wife makes about 20% more My wife makes about 20% more than me, does not bother me at all. What pisses me is that she still waits for me to pick up the tab when we go out to dinner. There’s your eqaul rights for ya!
scaredyclassic
October 16, 2008 @
6:26 AM
my underemployed doctor wife my underemployed doctor wife should make more than me but doesn’t. i was hoping to be upper middle class but ended up just middle class.
bobby
October 16, 2008 @
9:01 PM
tell you underemployed doctor tell you underemployed doctor wife to get her butt in gear.
I’m telling that to my wife next year when she finishes training. I’m getting tired of supporting her.
Coronita
October 16, 2008 @
6:28 AM
rnen wrote:My wife makes [quote=rnen]My wife makes about 20% more than me, does not bother me at all. What pisses me is that she still waits for me to pick up the tab when we go out to dinner. There’s your eqaul rights for ya![/quote]
lol
evolusd
October 16, 2008 @
8:29 AM
Does anyone else find it odd Does anyone else find it odd when married couples keep their finances separate? We go out with friends who have been married for years and they split their half of the bill…VERY odd to me. Am I crazy?
Enorah
October 16, 2008 @
8:36 AM
evolusd wrote:Does anyone [quote=evolusd]Does anyone else find it odd when married couples keep their finances separate? We go out with friends who have been married for years and they split their half of the bill…VERY odd to me. Am I crazy?[/quote]
Yes I find that odd
And this thread could piss off a lesser secure woman than I.
🙂
waitingpatiently
October 16, 2008 @
8:49 AM
I think its very odd…
I I think its very odd…
I have some friends that split their mortgage payment and utilities. And they are always fighting over who is paying for the kids “things” or classes.
Disclaimer: I am the stay-at-home mom that handles the “money” in our home.
svelte
October 16, 2008 @
9:01 PM
Wait…we have a Wait…we have a patientlywaiting on this board, and a waitingpatiently?
A husband and wife pair, perhaps?
[quote=waitingpatiently]I think its very odd…
I have some friends that split their mortgage payment and utilities. And they are always fighting over who is paying for the kids “things” or classes.
Disclaimer: I am the stay-at-home mom that handles the “money” in our home.[/quote]
temeculaguy
October 16, 2008 @
11:17 PM
most joint account people are most joint account people are on their starter marriage and separate account people are on…well not their first marriage. Since I’ve done both scenarios I can say the multiple account thing is my preference when two earners are earning about the same. It’s capatalism vs communism. I worked harder and earned more when the extra earnings went into my personal account than when it was a joint account. The perfect scanario=each partner has an equal and set amount direct deposited on payday into a joint account that covers all the bills and all the basics plus a little for disposable income, like dining out, vacations, etc.
10-20% goes into a personal account as does overtime, bonuses, whatever. Then you can buy risky stocks, lose and not get yelled at, go to vegas with your buddies and not get yelled at, pay for internet porn, not get yelled at and of course purchase gifts for her and buy things you want without feeling you are taking from the other person. Really, it’s not that weird and for me, there will never be just one joint account no matter what my domestic scenario is.
CBad
October 17, 2008 @
9:18 AM
Some of us are on our only Some of us are on our only marriage.
sc_alum
October 17, 2008 @
9:31 AM
CBad wrote:Some of us are on [quote=CBad]Some of us are on our only marriage.[/quote]
lol – that was fantastic
vegasrenter
October 16, 2008 @
7:35 AM
I make more now, but in years I make more now, but in years past my wife was on top (moneywise, I mean). By the way ERA = Earned Run Average.
svelte
October 16, 2008 @
7:37 AM
It wouldn’t bother me at all It wouldn’t bother me at all if wifey made more money than me. I always tell her that if she finds a way to make a half mil a year, I’ll gladly follow her around the country to wherever her employer asks her to move.
We both work to bring in the cash: I don’t really give a rodents rear whose paycheck it shows up on.
moneymaker
October 16, 2008 @
9:15 AM
I currently make more than my I currently make more than my wife, my company gives regular decent raises (approx.CPI+1-2%). I suspect that in a few years however she will pass me up unless I get a higher paying job, because I will be the first to admit she is a harder worker than I am. I’m not ambitious but she is.
ibjames
October 16, 2008 @
9:30 AM
threadkiller wrote:I [quote=threadkiller]I currently make more than my wife, my company gives regular decent raises (approx.CPI+1-2%). I suspect that in a few years however she will pass me up unless I get a higher paying job, because I will be the first to admit she is a harder worker than I am. I’m not ambitious but she is.[/quote]
same here, I work hard, but my wife really works hard, she has a hard time keeping up with events, never posts in forums and things like that, because she doesn’t have enough time
she’s years younger than me, but will pass me up soon I think, she’s really close already
Anonymous
October 16, 2008 @
11:24 AM
My husband and I both make My husband and I both make within a few thousand of each other – there’s no option for making about the same!
Coronita
October 16, 2008 @
12:35 PM
hibiscus wrote:My husband and [quote=hibiscus]My husband and I both make within a few thousand of each other – there’s no option for making about the same![/quote]
In theory, so do we, but that’s beside the point. Someone makes more at the cent level 🙂
CBad
October 16, 2008 @
2:48 PM
My husband and I make almost My husband and I make almost exactly the same salary but I end up making more with a better bonus and 401K match. It doesn’t bother him at all in fact he often mentions quitting and being the stay-at-home dad. I was out of the work force for 5 years and work 100% from home now with an extremely flexible schedule otherwise I would still be a stay-at-home mom (and will be again if this job ever impacted our family life). I’ll be the first to admit that my husband is more intelligent than I am and much better at his job. It’s just that my industry is more profitable. We have always shared all money coming in and I can’t imagine it any other way. I won’t vote and say he’s a deadbeat though. My husband is a real man who would always support his family no matter what even if it meant digging ditches.
CDMA ENG
October 16, 2008 @
3:34 PM
I dont think I would have a I dont think I would have a problem with a sugar momma unless it was Zha Zha Gabor, Charo, or Tyra Banks.
Then I would make my mailing address:
The Tanned One
Tourmaline Beach
San Diego, Just Right of the Parking Lot, 92109
😛
CE
Doofrat
October 16, 2008 @
12:00 PM
Evolusd,
I’ve always thought Evolusd,
I’ve always thought that was the most bizarre thing. It’s a community property state, and here they are messing around with three bank accounts when they should have one.
And then you wonder how do they split it if they go to In-N-Out one day and spouse 1 pays then they go to Le Chez De Foofy the next day and spouse 2 pays?!? Does spouse 1 then owe spouse a medium priced dinner or a couple of lunches, or something else maybe?
What is spouse 1 loses their job, does spouse 2 loan them money until they get a new one, do they charge interest?
Anonymous
October 16, 2008 @
8:49 PM
Well, we don’t know who makes Well, we don’t know who makes more cents than the other until the end of the year, since it depends on bonuses, commissions, and profit sharing.
And we have probably five different accounts at our credit union – we each have access to each other’s money, but it works for us to keep it separate. We move it around as needed, but we respect each other’s ability to manage his/her money.
svelte
October 17, 2008 @
10:29 AM
Only marriage here too…only Only marriage here too…only way that’ll change is if one of us dies and the other re-marries. We have had a joint account since day 1. We too are amazed at the separate account thing, but have finally come to the conclusion that it is probably a necessity when both partners have drastically different spending habits.
Our spending habits are very similar and pretty middle-of-the-road (not too tight, not too loose) so a joint account is just right.
Anonymous
October 17, 2008 @
2:57 PM
not voting b/c my husband is not voting b/c my husband is not a deadbeat, but just thought I would add another scenario. I make twice as much as my husband. Doesn’t really mean that much to either of us now, but my husband did work through some issues with that the first year or so. We share our accounts and both enjoy our full-time work. I definitely work harder, put in longer hours, and deal with a tougher work environment. He doesn’t have the same earning potential without going to get an advanced degree – and while he used to talk of doing that, he’s pretty comfortable with his cushy life now. I’m comfortable with that too, because I have come to realize what very successful men (spare me any discussions of what “success” means and go with the general stereotype here) have known for a long time – it is very difficult (not saying impossible folks) for two very busy professionals to maintain a happy family (at least one with children – much easier if you are only taking care of yourselves and relationship between spouses). One spouse usually has to sacrifice career ambitions and be the “go-to” parent. And I am just not the stay-at-home type, so this works for us.
Shadowfax
October 17, 2008 @
5:14 PM
I make less than my husband I make less than my husband currently because I elected to work a reduced schedule to take care of our two kids (when they are not in school and daycare). He runs his own business so he travels frequently and works all the time. Sometimes he is able to pay himself and sometimes he isn’t. My pay is the “glue” that pays the rent and daycare(funny, huh) and provides benefits, to which I contribute. His business is growing and when it gets to a nice comfortable level, I’d like to cut back even more and not have one foot divided between two worlds–lawyering and mothering. Both are very demanding.
zzz
October 18, 2008 @
4:02 PM
While I am single, I earn While I am single, I earn more than my boyfriend. I do think it is a bit of an issue because he is very proud and admittedly, I want to feel like he can take care of me if we chose that it would be better for the child if I were to exit the workforce for even just a year to have a child, or just take care of “us” period if he were the sole provider. I can take care of both of us on my salary, but he cannot. Is that right of me to feel this way?…I don’t know but I know that’s how I feel and I struggle with. Its also an issue when we both want to experience many things in life and only one of us can afford it without going into debt. The choice becomes do I pick up the tab for both of us or do we forgo the experience?
As for managing finances jointly or separately, I have friends on their 1st marriage who manage them separately and don’t have issues with the arrangement, and don’t “split” bills because they have differences in spending habits and also wanting to maintain some independence which I think is totally fine. They maintain their finances in much the same way when they were dating, but agree on savings, discuss big purchases and how to fund it. Just because you get married doesn’t mean the mortgage can’t continue to get auto-bill paid from 1 person’s account. Nor does it mean you have to discuss with one another if you can go blow $500 on something you want if it easily within affordability for the couple.
I haven’t reached a decision on how I’d manage my finances should I get married since I’m not, but neither my boyfriend nor I feel in today’s world, marriage as an institution is what defines the rules of the relationship when it comes to finances, children, or anything else for that matter. Its all between 2 people and what the other’s biases, as well as personal preferences are.
Equal rights and equal pay are great for woman, but woman and men both working has created competition and complexity for modern marriages. In past generations where there were traditional marriages where men were assigned the role to bring home the bacon and protect and defend. Woman were given the role as the nurterer, the domestic maiden. Now that often both the wife and husband work, who’s job is it to nurture the home, the family? Its not a straighforward answer and one I see many couples fighting over. I’m not saying we got back to a time of inequality for woman, but I’m just saying that its great to be a modern woman with so many choices, but I think its harder to talk about these things openly even in today’s society than it should be. Nor is there a recipe.
golfproz
October 18, 2008 @
9:50 PM
My wife makes about 20% more My wife makes about 20% more than me. I want her to make 100% more than me so I can quit and start tuning up for the senior tour 🙂
We have a good arraignment that’s been working for over 20 years.
She does the bills and banking. We have one account.
The kids and Her do the cleaning and the laundry.
She does the shopping (although I often tag along).
I do the cooking.
I do the home repairs and play Mr. Fix-it.
I take car of the cars.
I do the research and financial planning.
Most everything else we do together.
Akula1992
October 19, 2008 @
6:41 PM
With Base pay, the wife makes With Base pay, the wife makes more than I do. With allowances and bonuses I make about 16% more than her.
She is smart, really smart, scary smart. Unfortunately, but does not have her Master’s degree. The poor lass met me and moved out of Boston to follow me and thus ended her Master’s stint at Harvard. Perhaps one day we will move back there but right now she is still following me all over the place. She is a Senior Systems Engineer for a industry leading company that makes business software and I am a career military officer with a little over 20 years in service. I still feel guilty, a lot guilty, for taking her away from her Master’s but the Navy does not have a big presence in BeanTown.
We have separate accounts but we both have access to each others accounts. I pay the mortgage, insurance, gas and grocery bills. The cars are both paid off. She pays for utilities and, uh, her stuff, I guess. I don’t really care since she has to put up with me 🙂
October 16, 2008 @ 5:08 AM
I’m just sort of curious.
I’m just sort of curious. I’ve been working a lot more and harder these days. I was pretty happy with my recent comps and bonus….until my wife just came back with hers.
Part of my is happy for her, part of me is sort of irritated at her company for being generous, and my company for not keeping up. But I guess in this economy, who’s complaining, right?
On the good news, we get to go a healthplan for which there are no out of pocket expenses and no paycheck deductions, so I can opt out of the one offered by my company that sucks.
Side note, does it generally both some of you men if your spouse makes more than you? Just curious. I’ll admit, it a tiny bit bothers me…Sorry, I’m I’m for ERA…Just, a little pride wounding though.
October 16, 2008 @ 6:22 AM
My wife makes about 20% more
My wife makes about 20% more than me, does not bother me at all. What pisses me is that she still waits for me to pick up the tab when we go out to dinner. There’s your eqaul rights for ya!
October 16, 2008 @ 6:26 AM
my underemployed doctor wife
my underemployed doctor wife should make more than me but doesn’t. i was hoping to be upper middle class but ended up just middle class.
October 16, 2008 @ 9:01 PM
tell you underemployed doctor
tell you underemployed doctor wife to get her butt in gear.
I’m telling that to my wife next year when she finishes training. I’m getting tired of supporting her.
October 16, 2008 @ 6:28 AM
rnen wrote:My wife makes
[quote=rnen]My wife makes about 20% more than me, does not bother me at all. What pisses me is that she still waits for me to pick up the tab when we go out to dinner. There’s your eqaul rights for ya![/quote]
lol
October 16, 2008 @ 8:29 AM
Does anyone else find it odd
Does anyone else find it odd when married couples keep their finances separate? We go out with friends who have been married for years and they split their half of the bill…VERY odd to me. Am I crazy?
October 16, 2008 @ 8:36 AM
evolusd wrote:Does anyone
[quote=evolusd]Does anyone else find it odd when married couples keep their finances separate? We go out with friends who have been married for years and they split their half of the bill…VERY odd to me. Am I crazy?[/quote]
Yes I find that odd
And this thread could piss off a lesser secure woman than I.
🙂
October 16, 2008 @ 8:49 AM
I think its very odd…
I
I think its very odd…
I have some friends that split their mortgage payment and utilities. And they are always fighting over who is paying for the kids “things” or classes.
Disclaimer: I am the stay-at-home mom that handles the “money” in our home.
October 16, 2008 @ 9:01 PM
Wait…we have a
Wait…we have a patientlywaiting on this board, and a waitingpatiently?
A husband and wife pair, perhaps?
[quote=waitingpatiently]I think its very odd…
I have some friends that split their mortgage payment and utilities. And they are always fighting over who is paying for the kids “things” or classes.
Disclaimer: I am the stay-at-home mom that handles the “money” in our home.[/quote]
October 16, 2008 @ 11:17 PM
most joint account people are
most joint account people are on their starter marriage and separate account people are on…well not their first marriage. Since I’ve done both scenarios I can say the multiple account thing is my preference when two earners are earning about the same. It’s capatalism vs communism. I worked harder and earned more when the extra earnings went into my personal account than when it was a joint account. The perfect scanario=each partner has an equal and set amount direct deposited on payday into a joint account that covers all the bills and all the basics plus a little for disposable income, like dining out, vacations, etc.
10-20% goes into a personal account as does overtime, bonuses, whatever. Then you can buy risky stocks, lose and not get yelled at, go to vegas with your buddies and not get yelled at, pay for internet porn, not get yelled at and of course purchase gifts for her and buy things you want without feeling you are taking from the other person. Really, it’s not that weird and for me, there will never be just one joint account no matter what my domestic scenario is.
October 17, 2008 @ 9:18 AM
Some of us are on our only
Some of us are on our only marriage.
October 17, 2008 @ 9:31 AM
CBad wrote:Some of us are on
[quote=CBad]Some of us are on our only marriage.[/quote]
lol – that was fantastic
October 16, 2008 @ 7:35 AM
I make more now, but in years
I make more now, but in years past my wife was on top (moneywise, I mean). By the way ERA = Earned Run Average.
October 16, 2008 @ 7:37 AM
It wouldn’t bother me at all
It wouldn’t bother me at all if wifey made more money than me. I always tell her that if she finds a way to make a half mil a year, I’ll gladly follow her around the country to wherever her employer asks her to move.
We both work to bring in the cash: I don’t really give a rodents rear whose paycheck it shows up on.
October 16, 2008 @ 9:15 AM
I currently make more than my
I currently make more than my wife, my company gives regular decent raises (approx.CPI+1-2%). I suspect that in a few years however she will pass me up unless I get a higher paying job, because I will be the first to admit she is a harder worker than I am. I’m not ambitious but she is.
October 16, 2008 @ 9:30 AM
threadkiller wrote:I
[quote=threadkiller]I currently make more than my wife, my company gives regular decent raises (approx.CPI+1-2%). I suspect that in a few years however she will pass me up unless I get a higher paying job, because I will be the first to admit she is a harder worker than I am. I’m not ambitious but she is.[/quote]
same here, I work hard, but my wife really works hard, she has a hard time keeping up with events, never posts in forums and things like that, because she doesn’t have enough time
she’s years younger than me, but will pass me up soon I think, she’s really close already
October 16, 2008 @ 11:24 AM
My husband and I both make
My husband and I both make within a few thousand of each other – there’s no option for making about the same!
October 16, 2008 @ 12:35 PM
hibiscus wrote:My husband and
[quote=hibiscus]My husband and I both make within a few thousand of each other – there’s no option for making about the same![/quote]
In theory, so do we, but that’s beside the point. Someone makes more at the cent level 🙂
October 16, 2008 @ 2:48 PM
My husband and I make almost
My husband and I make almost exactly the same salary but I end up making more with a better bonus and 401K match. It doesn’t bother him at all in fact he often mentions quitting and being the stay-at-home dad. I was out of the work force for 5 years and work 100% from home now with an extremely flexible schedule otherwise I would still be a stay-at-home mom (and will be again if this job ever impacted our family life). I’ll be the first to admit that my husband is more intelligent than I am and much better at his job. It’s just that my industry is more profitable. We have always shared all money coming in and I can’t imagine it any other way. I won’t vote and say he’s a deadbeat though. My husband is a real man who would always support his family no matter what even if it meant digging ditches.
October 16, 2008 @ 3:34 PM
I dont think I would have a
I dont think I would have a problem with a sugar momma unless it was Zha Zha Gabor, Charo, or Tyra Banks.
Then I would make my mailing address:
The Tanned One
Tourmaline Beach
San Diego, Just Right of the Parking Lot, 92109
😛
CE
October 16, 2008 @ 12:00 PM
Evolusd,
I’ve always thought
Evolusd,
I’ve always thought that was the most bizarre thing. It’s a community property state, and here they are messing around with three bank accounts when they should have one.
And then you wonder how do they split it if they go to In-N-Out one day and spouse 1 pays then they go to Le Chez De Foofy the next day and spouse 2 pays?!? Does spouse 1 then owe spouse a medium priced dinner or a couple of lunches, or something else maybe?
What is spouse 1 loses their job, does spouse 2 loan them money until they get a new one, do they charge interest?
October 16, 2008 @ 8:49 PM
Well, we don’t know who makes
Well, we don’t know who makes more cents than the other until the end of the year, since it depends on bonuses, commissions, and profit sharing.
And we have probably five different accounts at our credit union – we each have access to each other’s money, but it works for us to keep it separate. We move it around as needed, but we respect each other’s ability to manage his/her money.
October 17, 2008 @ 10:29 AM
Only marriage here too…only
Only marriage here too…only way that’ll change is if one of us dies and the other re-marries. We have had a joint account since day 1. We too are amazed at the separate account thing, but have finally come to the conclusion that it is probably a necessity when both partners have drastically different spending habits.
Our spending habits are very similar and pretty middle-of-the-road (not too tight, not too loose) so a joint account is just right.
October 17, 2008 @ 2:57 PM
not voting b/c my husband is
not voting b/c my husband is not a deadbeat, but just thought I would add another scenario. I make twice as much as my husband. Doesn’t really mean that much to either of us now, but my husband did work through some issues with that the first year or so. We share our accounts and both enjoy our full-time work. I definitely work harder, put in longer hours, and deal with a tougher work environment. He doesn’t have the same earning potential without going to get an advanced degree – and while he used to talk of doing that, he’s pretty comfortable with his cushy life now. I’m comfortable with that too, because I have come to realize what very successful men (spare me any discussions of what “success” means and go with the general stereotype here) have known for a long time – it is very difficult (not saying impossible folks) for two very busy professionals to maintain a happy family (at least one with children – much easier if you are only taking care of yourselves and relationship between spouses). One spouse usually has to sacrifice career ambitions and be the “go-to” parent. And I am just not the stay-at-home type, so this works for us.
October 17, 2008 @ 5:14 PM
I make less than my husband
I make less than my husband currently because I elected to work a reduced schedule to take care of our two kids (when they are not in school and daycare). He runs his own business so he travels frequently and works all the time. Sometimes he is able to pay himself and sometimes he isn’t. My pay is the “glue” that pays the rent and daycare(funny, huh) and provides benefits, to which I contribute. His business is growing and when it gets to a nice comfortable level, I’d like to cut back even more and not have one foot divided between two worlds–lawyering and mothering. Both are very demanding.
October 18, 2008 @ 4:02 PM
While I am single, I earn
While I am single, I earn more than my boyfriend. I do think it is a bit of an issue because he is very proud and admittedly, I want to feel like he can take care of me if we chose that it would be better for the child if I were to exit the workforce for even just a year to have a child, or just take care of “us” period if he were the sole provider. I can take care of both of us on my salary, but he cannot. Is that right of me to feel this way?…I don’t know but I know that’s how I feel and I struggle with. Its also an issue when we both want to experience many things in life and only one of us can afford it without going into debt. The choice becomes do I pick up the tab for both of us or do we forgo the experience?
As for managing finances jointly or separately, I have friends on their 1st marriage who manage them separately and don’t have issues with the arrangement, and don’t “split” bills because they have differences in spending habits and also wanting to maintain some independence which I think is totally fine. They maintain their finances in much the same way when they were dating, but agree on savings, discuss big purchases and how to fund it. Just because you get married doesn’t mean the mortgage can’t continue to get auto-bill paid from 1 person’s account. Nor does it mean you have to discuss with one another if you can go blow $500 on something you want if it easily within affordability for the couple.
I haven’t reached a decision on how I’d manage my finances should I get married since I’m not, but neither my boyfriend nor I feel in today’s world, marriage as an institution is what defines the rules of the relationship when it comes to finances, children, or anything else for that matter. Its all between 2 people and what the other’s biases, as well as personal preferences are.
Equal rights and equal pay are great for woman, but woman and men both working has created competition and complexity for modern marriages. In past generations where there were traditional marriages where men were assigned the role to bring home the bacon and protect and defend. Woman were given the role as the nurterer, the domestic maiden. Now that often both the wife and husband work, who’s job is it to nurture the home, the family? Its not a straighforward answer and one I see many couples fighting over. I’m not saying we got back to a time of inequality for woman, but I’m just saying that its great to be a modern woman with so many choices, but I think its harder to talk about these things openly even in today’s society than it should be. Nor is there a recipe.
October 18, 2008 @ 9:50 PM
My wife makes about 20% more
My wife makes about 20% more than me. I want her to make 100% more than me so I can quit and start tuning up for the senior tour 🙂
We have a good arraignment that’s been working for over 20 years.
She does the bills and banking. We have one account.
The kids and Her do the cleaning and the laundry.
She does the shopping (although I often tag along).
I do the cooking.
I do the home repairs and play Mr. Fix-it.
I take car of the cars.
I do the research and financial planning.
Most everything else we do together.
October 19, 2008 @ 6:41 PM
With Base pay, the wife makes
With Base pay, the wife makes more than I do. With allowances and bonuses I make about 16% more than her.
She is smart, really smart, scary smart. Unfortunately, but does not have her Master’s degree. The poor lass met me and moved out of Boston to follow me and thus ended her Master’s stint at Harvard. Perhaps one day we will move back there but right now she is still following me all over the place. She is a Senior Systems Engineer for a industry leading company that makes business software and I am a career military officer with a little over 20 years in service. I still feel guilty, a lot guilty, for taking her away from her Master’s but the Navy does not have a big presence in BeanTown.
We have separate accounts but we both have access to each others accounts. I pay the mortgage, insurance, gas and grocery bills. The cars are both paid off. She pays for utilities and, uh, her stuff, I guess. I don’t really care since she has to put up with me 🙂