Doublewide and Bugs made good points about the parks and the grocery stores… we bring our toddlers to Scripps Lake all the time to feed the ducks. We also frequent the parks in Sabre Springs and Poway. Both Del Sur and 4S most likely have exactly what you are looking for with respect to demographics. They do have Mello Roos and HOA and in 4S you will not have a large size lot. However the schools will be good and again, the demographics will be closer to what you desire from what I gather. Pricing in both these areas is what it is… higher then most people believe it should be or will be in the future.