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Submitted by powayseller on August 26, 2006 - 3:24pm
Gearing your kids to get an Ivy acceptance turns them into robots. How happy I am we gave up competitive soccer; my 13-yr-old son is busy all day making movies on his computer, being creative.
You don't get creative by molding yourself into a statistic and doing adult-led activities. Everytime your kid plays a sport, he is following adult instruction. Is this ever balanced by him playing a pick-up game with friends? My son is often called to meet his friends at the park to play flag football. I love that! They create the game, they actually have fun playing because they are not worried about performing for the coach or the parents. They make the rules, solve their problems, and finish the adventure with a swim party at a friend's house.
We need more creativity, not followers. Read the new book "The Overachievers", written by NYT Bestselling author of Pledged, Alexandra Robbins.
And don't worry about his athletic prowess. He went on a one hour run with his dad, 9-yr-old brother, and dog on the mountain trails behind our house today. He asked to join the gym, and loves it there. Although he is a year younger than everyone else because he skipped a grade, he was the 2nd fastest runner in 8th grade.
My younger son, the 9 yr old, just subscribed to Gourmet magazine, and created a signature dish for us Wed night. This is the life I am so proud to have created for my kids. They love to learn, create, express, explore. Parents who push the Ivy league and overscheduling agenda have a high risk of turning their kids into grade-grubbing cheats (it's all in that book I mentioned). Now I know how we got those Enron boys; they are like those overachieving high schoolers, who think the end justifies the means. Anything to win, to get ahead.
All that Ivy league stuff is so overrated. An Ivy league degree doesn't improve your income, and trying to attain admission destroys a teen's development in high school, taking the focus development of creativity and intelligence, and a joy of learning, to creating a resume to meet the perceived expectations of a college admission counselor. Perceived is the key word; the book makes it clear, from admissions counselor interviews, that they don't look for the things that people think. They care little about your experiences, but very much about how you experience and interpret your world.
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