Piggs and their single daughters?

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Submitted by barnaby33 on November 30, 2009 - 9:22pm

Any piggs have attractive, single daughters or friends? 25-32, no kids, a good fico score. A job would be a plus, but not really necessary. A sense of adventure and or humor would be a real plus. Send picture of truck and or boat along with picture of potential mate.

Looking around at online dating sites, its depressing out there. Much better to network with people you know.

Josh

Submitted by Diego Mamani on November 30, 2009 - 9:52pm.

There could be Piggs who fit your description...

Submitted by Ricechex on November 30, 2009 - 10:32pm.

Josh, you are barking up the right tree. The online dating sites are nightmares. Might know someone for you, but, need more info. Can you PM me on this site and I can provide you my email address.

Submitted by urbanrealtor on November 30, 2009 - 10:53pm.

Josh, have you met you?

On a more serious note, I often believe that I somehow tricked my wife and then I feel guilty that I have somehow limited her options for happiness.
Then I wonder if she will ever notice that she settled.

I mean seriously, how many chicks are able to debate Foucault while watching DS9, have an encyclopedic knowledge of Bauhaus and Iggy Pop, and keep a set of 10-siders in their backpack?

Not bad for a someone who grew up on welfare.

Submitted by patb on November 30, 2009 - 10:54pm.

i went to a match.com dating event in OKC once.
I decided all those women were single for a reason.

Submitted by barnaby33 on November 30, 2009 - 11:08pm.

Urban, yes I have. I get re-acquainted every day when I wake up. As a good friend of mine once said, "everybody's got their demons." Mine just happen to be slightly more vocal.

I put this up as a lark, but it can't hurt. Besides I figure if nothing else I'll pick up a few ideas. I actually met my ex (2 girlfriends ago) on Match. We were together for 3.5 years. Seems weirder this time around, but thats probably because I'm on POF and OkCupid. Those are the free dating sites.

Diego, if there are piggs who fit the profile, by all means, "out" them. Sorry CBad doesn't count.

Josh

Submitted by Akula1992 on December 1, 2009 - 11:38am.

patb,

I hear ya. Many moons ago when I lived in Jacksonville, FL I tried that site. IIRC there were about 9,000 female profiles on the site. I did a simple search based on three criteria that I considered personally important to me:

1. College degree
2. Non-smoker
3. No children from a previous relationship

Those three criteria reduced the pool from over 9,000 down to 3 - and non of the three had a picture ;)

Submitted by NeetaT on December 1, 2009 - 12:07pm.

I had to settle for a wife 13 yrs younger than me. Believe me; women my age look like hell. I would adjust the age range from 21-35. Women tend not to date men much older than they are unless they actually meet the man in person and find him attractive, thus when they come across your profile on-line they may be put off by your age. In person is always better, but not always convenient. My wife and I separated for 1yr and I had no problem dating women in their 20's. All of them, I met at local establishments. Being articulate and in-shape seemed to be key. I thought that driving a nice sports car would help, but it did not seem to matter.

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 1, 2009 - 12:19pm.

If pies are in the sky 28-30 would be ideal, just judging by category and what I'd like. However I agree with NeetaT in that widening the pool age wise is certainly easier if you meet them in person.

However San Diego is actually quite tough in a sense. If you are over 30, as I am now, you really don't have as many options. I suppose that's why meetup.com groups are popular. I've joined a couple, but have not yet attended any events.

I'm all about suggestions of widening the pool to find prospective mates. What I like about this community is that it tends to be self selecting for less idiots. So if I do meet women through recommendation here, they too are less likely to be idiots.

I suppose my biggest problem is working in an all guy environment and having wine and paragliding as my two biggest hobbies.

I suppose I could dangle the hook that if I meet the right woman, we could go house shopping together. Now for people who know me on this board, that is a big hook.

Submitted by fredo4 on December 1, 2009 - 12:47pm.

Where's Marion when we need her?

Submitted by SD Transplant on December 1, 2009 - 1:24pm.

fredo4 wrote:
Where's Marion when we need her?

LOL....that's a good one

Submitted by CardiffBaseball on December 1, 2009 - 1:36pm.

This is easily the best place I've ever lived for this kind of thing, but then again I haven't looked at the sites you mentioned.

Trouble is many seem desperate to have kids, and while I love my kids, that can be quite difficult if things don't workout. I'll assume being from the midwest that my taste as to what makes an attractive woman is far lower than most. Or is that because I am 41?

I observed the other day at a 10 minute or so pitstop at the Chevron off La Costa/I-5 that there were at least 10 ladies that I'd lie with in the biblical sense. Some of these were too old for you/married but at least half were in the demographic you were talking. This wasn't even going out to a pub, so I am lucky to be married in that I'd get taken to the cleaners out here. Fall sucker to the first doe-eyed beauty, and probably choose poorly.

Where I work I recall (they have since left) two of the most gorgeous software developers I've ever seen in IT, both about 30 right now, single, smart, fit. They seemed like amazing catches for the right guy.

Submitted by CDMA ENG on December 1, 2009 - 1:44pm.

fredo4 wrote:
Where's Marion when we need her?

Not to hijack but whatever happened to her anyway?

CE

Submitted by Eugene on December 1, 2009 - 4:50pm.

CDMA ENG wrote:
fredo4 wrote:
Where's Marion when we need her?

Not to hijack but whatever happened to her anyway?

CE

She was banned ... TWICE ...

Submitted by davelj on December 1, 2009 - 7:00pm.

barnaby33 wrote:
Any piggs have attractive, single daughters or friends? 25-32, no kids, a good fico score. A job would be a plus, but not really necessary. A sense of adventure and or humor would be a real plus. Send picture of truck and or boat along with picture of potential mate.

Looking around at online dating sites, its depressing out there. Much better to network with people you know.

Josh

One word: Mexico.

Yeah, you gotta learn Spanish (which is not particularly difficult), but if you're looking for beautiful, intelligent, low-maintenance women close to San Diego, Mexico's your best bet. A decent-looking Spanish-speaking gringo with a job is a very hot commodity. You will have a plethora of choices. And FICO score? Hahahaha... not many folks in Mexico have ready access to credit.

Sure, the news says its violent down there (personally, I've never seen it), but you did mention a "sense of adventure," right?

Submitted by urbanrealtor on December 1, 2009 - 9:03pm.

Eugene wrote:
CDMA ENG wrote:
fredo4 wrote:
Where's Marion when we need her?

Not to hijack but whatever happened to her anyway?

CE

She was banned ... TWICE ...

Once while we were debating civil rights.

It deleted a bunch of posts I was proud of.

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 4, 2009 - 10:03pm.

Davelj, lo hablo el Espanol, pero no lo domino. Tampoco, my padre vivo al sur de Tijuana.

A mi, no me gusta las chicas Mexicanas. Hay muchas problems, cultura primeramente.
Josue

Submitted by urbanrealtor on December 4, 2009 - 11:18pm.

barnaby33 wrote:
Davelj, lo hablo el Espanol, pero no lo domino. Tampoco, my padre vivo al sur de Tijuana.

A mi, no me gusta las chicas Mexicanas. Hay muchas problems, cultura primeramente.
Josue

I pity you then.

Truly.

Submitted by Diego Mamani on December 5, 2009 - 12:08am.

I pity you too, B33. BTW, "tampoco" means "neither."

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 5, 2009 - 12:58am.

So not perfect, what a bunch of Spanish grammar Nazis. Pity me all you want, or not at all. I'm interested in finding what I'm interested in.
Josh

Submitted by JC on December 5, 2009 - 8:15am.

What you really need is the perspective from the ladies on this site. I bet JPINPB and other ladies would have good input. Of course, reading this thread can be quite depressing if you are a woman. A hint, if you are a woman and have all of the following characteristics (I am. I do), you do NOT want to post a photo. Trust me on this one.

1. College degree
2. Non-smoker
3. No children from a previous relationship

If you want my opinion, I think the MeetUp groups are probably your best bet. You might also considering volunteering with a non-profit. Lots of nice, smart people. Even some hot ones.

Good luck! I hope you succeed and please let us know. I might borrow your idea for a Pigg son!

Submitted by urbanrealtor on December 5, 2009 - 6:47pm.

barnaby33 wrote:
So not perfect, what a bunch of Spanish grammar Nazis. Pity me all you want, or not at all. I'm interested in finding what I'm interested in.
Josh

Yeah but having a checklist that is specific (other than like, "needs to be nice and smart") is a dumb idea.

Including or excluding any group is really limiting.

I have dated smokers when I did not smoke and single moms when I was 22.

Love and happiness are where you find them.

Submitted by Ricechex on December 5, 2009 - 7:23pm.

urbanrealtor wrote:
barnaby33 wrote:
So not perfect, what a bunch of Spanish grammar Nazis. Pity me all you want, or not at all. I'm interested in finding what I'm interested in.
Josh

Yeah but having a checklist that is specific (other than like, "needs to be nice and smart") is a dumb idea.

Including or excluding any group is really limiting.

I have dated smokers when I did not smoke and single moms when I was 22.

Love and happiness are where you find them.

Aye Aye Urbanrealtor!

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 5, 2009 - 9:53pm.

Possibly, but pretending you don't have a checklist is worse. I don't date smokers and I'm not interested in single moms, neither makes me anything other than normal. If you have a broader base from which to draw, good for you. I'm not poo pooing your choices, its you who is doing so to me.

Quite to the contrary of your view, I think we all have checklists. I think its only in the everybody gets a trophy and nobody gets feelings hurt world where we don't admit it.

If you don't agree with my choices, by all means comment freely. I posted this thread expecting no less. If you think you are adding value with that type of comment, you are wrong. Then again, that's just my judgment.

I will agree with you that love is where you find it and that being accepting of others is a very good trait to have. However its easy to prove you do have a checklist as I'm relatively certain I can find very specific traits that are an absolute deal killer for you and anyone else.

Acceptance must be tempered to varying degrees. I just admit that my acceptance is a bit harder to come by. I have somewhat higher standards, ahem I mean longer checklists.

Josh

Submitted by davelj on December 6, 2009 - 10:48am.

barnaby33 wrote:
Possibly, but pretending you don't have a checklist is worse.

Here's my checklist:

1. Hot
2. Sense of humor
3. Hot
4. Disease-free
5. Hot
6. Stifles any urge to nag

Things most men say they care about but I don't:

1. Education, intelligence, etc.
These are traits I want my long-term friends to have (male or female). And if a woman I'm dating has them - bonus. But if she doesn't - no big deal. It's not like we're going to get married, after all.
2. Kids
I'm not going to be their father. And sometimes it's good when a woman you're dating has a lot of other responsibilities on her plate - she has less time for you.
3. Smoking
As long as she doesn't do it around me and keeps a healthy supply of breath mints handy.
4. Financial responsibility
I won't be supporting her, so...

Submitted by no_such_reality on December 6, 2009 - 11:15am.

To date successfully, you need to know what you want. You also need to know what what you want wants. And finally, you need to know the environment.

In other words, know the market and your target market.

If there are 9000 women that meet your basic critieria, you'll find 54,000 men striving to hit it.

Many crudely so.

Go for an eye and mind opening experience. Create a profile with an attractive picture borrowed from the net for a week of your target market. Step back and try not to gasp at the Lycos wannabes, cheesy bar pick up lines and blatant egos that flood your mailbox.

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 6, 2009 - 11:21am.

Happiest is the man with low expectations, though you seem to have doubled up on "hot."

I think intelligence is as important as looks, because I'm not interested in quick flings. Every time I evaluate a woman its as a long term relationship, never a fling. It just seems to risky to try to find short term. It may happen but the odds are against it.

I'm truly surprised at the comments from you and urban about dating smokers. I suppose if all you are out for is pleasing yourself, then the self destructiveness of that behavior doesn't give you pause. It sure does for me.

Josh

Submitted by davelj on December 6, 2009 - 11:41am.

barnaby33 wrote:
It just seems to risky to try to find short term. It may happen but the odds are against it.

What's the risk? And why are the odds against it? I'm not following...

Submitted by scaredyclassic on December 6, 2009 - 11:50am.

the only way to find good women is to go thru a lot of them

Submitted by barnaby33 on December 6, 2009 - 5:27pm.

Well davelj, assuming you are interested in a sexual relationship, the first risk is picking up something extra from the deal. The second risk is pregnancy, though maybe you've had a snippy snip. The third is emotional so you might discount that completely, but I've never found opening up to people to be risk free.

As to the odds being against it, every woman I've encountered says at least on the surface, they aren't interested in anything short term. Maybe its BS, I'm certainly no expert. I tend to take people at face value, at first.
Josh

Submitted by CA renter on December 6, 2009 - 5:54pm.

Josh,

Based on the things you've said on this thread, you should have absolutely no problem finding a very nice, intelligent, attractive, young lady.

Wish I could help you find one, but most of our friends are well over your age limit, and they're married with kids. ;)

Seriously, you'll have no problem. Happy hunting!

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