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Large homes separate families
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Submitted by powayseller on August 23, 2006 - 8:57am
From my own experience, large homes separate families....so does having a TV/computer in the bedroom. Each person hangs out in his own room, and when you want to find someone, you end up yelling all over the place, creating a bunch of noise.
On our vacation, it was so sweet being all together in a little suite. The kids slept together in one room, just as they did for most of their lives.
I think the need to prove one's worth by buying a big house ends up undermining the family. Families in McMansions are missing out on the closeness of being near each other.
On a related note, nothing is as important as our family dinner. I've avoided certain activities because they were at the dinner hour.
I missed many baseball games because I was in the kitchen making a meal from scratch. I know my son would have liked me there, but he saw the trade-off. After the game, I picked him up and we had a warm home-cooked meal together, while the other families had to make do with a fast food drive through. A meal is more than calories; it holds your thoughts and love for your guests. A healthy meal, cooked with the 6 tastes, is so satisfying, you don't want to eat a bunch of junk food for desert. It nourishes and fulfills in a way that a drive through can never do. And I am as skinny as can be, and I love to eat. I eat healthy; I don't crave junk, because I was raised on health food. I had my first candy at age 3, when the store clerk handed me a candy unbeknownst to my mother. I have pictures where I was munching on carrots and cucumbers. I had my first soda as a teenager, and my kids do not drink soda to this day. The oldest is 15. I was nursed, as were my 3 kids. Research shows that nursing increases health even at middle age. We drink whole milk, butter, nuts, avocadoes. We need fat for soft skin. So food is very important to me. So is a close family life.
So think about getting a little house, letting the kids share a bedroom, and taking that TV or computer out of the kids' bedrooms. Small spaces bring intimacy to a family.
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